There’s a moment it hits you. The approach that worked when your children were small is suddenly creating more distance than connection, more conflict than calm. And the harder you push, the worse it gets.
If you’re parenting a teenager right now, you know exactly what I mean.
In this week’s episode, we’re talking about one of the most important shifts you’ll ever make as a parent: moving from control to influence. I’m sharing what control actually costs us in our relationship with our teens, what influence really looks like in practice, and how the Islamic framework we’ve been given is actually the most powerful parenting guide there is for this season of parenting.
In this episode:
Why becoming more strict with teenagers often backfires, and what to do instead
The practical difference between a control response and an influence response (with real examples)
What the Qur’an and the Sunnah teach us about guiding hearts, not just managing behavior
Why you don’t have to wait until your kids are teenagers to make this shift, and why starting early changes everything
How to respond when your teenager makes a mistake in a way that keeps the door open
One small, doable thing you can try this week.
This episode is for you whether your children are 5 years old or 15. The relationship you build now is the foundation everything else stands on.
If this resonated with you, share it with a parent who needs to hear it. And come and tell me in the comments: what’s one moment this week where you chose connection over control?
With dua’
Gulnaz
Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator
Halal Parenting
