The difference between a consequence that teaches and one that just hurts. Why disconnected punishments don't change behavior, and what Islam and research say actually does.
As a parent of a now grown up daughter, whom I raised on my own, I really enjoyed your article. Parenting is often a difficult path to navigate especially doing it on your own. I was fortunate as my mum and sister were of a great help.
If she misbehaved whilst we out for the day, we would leave early which was often the consequence. If she had misbehaved at home, we discussed the behaviour and the result was generally no movie or TV.
I struggled financially and we had been out for the day, taking a picnic with us. It was a very hot day and my daughter asked for an ice cream. I told her we only had money for bus fare and if we got an ice cream it meant walking home approximately 3 miles. Her response “ we can walk home through all the parks”!!!
We got two ice lollies and walked home. She was 5 and didn’t complain once. We arrived home and her first request was for an ice lolly from the freezer!!
As a parent of a now grown up daughter, whom I raised on my own, I really enjoyed your article. Parenting is often a difficult path to navigate especially doing it on your own. I was fortunate as my mum and sister were of a great help.
If she misbehaved whilst we out for the day, we would leave early which was often the consequence. If she had misbehaved at home, we discussed the behaviour and the result was generally no movie or TV.
I struggled financially and we had been out for the day, taking a picnic with us. It was a very hot day and my daughter asked for an ice cream. I told her we only had money for bus fare and if we got an ice cream it meant walking home approximately 3 miles. Her response “ we can walk home through all the parks”!!!
We got two ice lollies and walked home. She was 5 and didn’t complain once. We arrived home and her first request was for an ice lolly from the freezer!!
That’s amazing! You did a great job raising your daughter and the important thing is that she understood the reasons behind the consequence 👏