This week I'm getting honest about consequences, the ones that backfire, the ones that came from anger, and the cultural belief that consequences have to hurt to work.
In this episode
I share a moment my own life with that shows exactly what happens when a consequence misses the mark entirely,
Why disconnected consequences don’t work, and
What I've learned since about what actually changes behavior.
If you've ever taken something away in frustration and watched your child get angrier rather than quieter, this episode is for you.
You’re doing better than you think,
With du’a
Gulnaz
Halal Parenting
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Anas ibn Malik served the Prophet ﷺ for ten years, from childhood, and he said:
"He never said to me 'uff!' He never said, 'Why did you do that?' or 'Why did you not do that?'"
[Sahih al-Bukhari, 6038].
