Big Emotions About Allah and Worship For Tweens: When The Questions Get Harder
What to say when your tween asks the hard questions about Allah, about being Muslim, about why their friends' lives look so different from their own.
This week’s scenario
It’s bedtime. Or it’s the car on the way home from school. Or it’s dinner, and the family is still at the table. And your tween looks at you and asks something you weren’t prepared for.
Why does Allah let bad things happen to good people? If my friends are good people, will they go to Jannah? Why do we have to eat halal? Why do I have to pray when my friends don’t? Why do I have to be Muslim?
Some of these questions have answers. Some of them don’t, not simple ones anyway. And the way you handle the next thirty seconds, whether you shut it down, deflect, give a rehearsed answer that doesn’t land, or actually receive the question, is going to determine whether your tween brings you the next one.
This is the script for the parent who wants to be the person their tween comes to with the hard questions. Not the person they learn to stop asking.
Listen to the podcast
When You're Exhausted And This Is The Moment They've Been Waiting For All Day
In this episode:
1. Two things that happen when your tween asks hard questions at bedtime.
2. Story of my son who saved all his questions for the dark.
3. What late night questions tell you about your relationship with your kids.
4. The honest deferral that keeps the door open without shutting them down.
5. Why coming back is the whole thing.
The framing before the scripts
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