Anxiety: Scripts For Your Teen
When your teen has retreated to their room and you can't reach them. Real words for the parent of the teenager who's gone quiet.
This week’s scenario
Your teenager is withdrawing. They're spending hours in their room. The phone is always in their hand. They eat in their room when they can get away with it. They've stopped joining family meals. They barely speak to their siblings. When you ask if anything is wrong, they say “no”, or “leave me alone”, or they say nothing at all. The house has a teenager-shaped silence in it that wasn't there a few months ago, and you don't know if this is normal teenage development or something more.
The scripts in this guide give you real words for the parent of a teen who’s retreated behind closed doors. Low-pressure lines designed to keep the door open from your side without demanding engagement from theirs. Includes scripts for the moments you do get a chance to talk, and for the moments that you don’t, plus guidance for the long stretches when nothing seems to be working.
The companion podcast episode is an honest conversation about why panic is your enemy when your teen has withdrawn, and how to keep your own nervous system regulated so you’re still reachable when they’re finally ready to come back. This episode is for the parent who feels like they’re losing their teenager and doesn’t know what to do.
The Withdrawn Teen: Surviving The Closed Door
In this episode, I talk about:
1. The teenager who has retreated behind the closed door,
2. What's developmentally normal versus what's concerning,
3. Why panic is your enemy as a parent of a withdrawn teen,
4. And the long game of keeping the door open from your side until they're ready to come back.
This is the episode for the parent who feels like they're losing their teenager and doesn't know what to do.
Scripts
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