Anxiety: Scripts For Your School-Age Child
When your school-age child melts down over a small mistake, here's what to say.
This week’s scenario
Your child made a small, if not tiny mistake on their homework. A spelling error, or they colored their map with the wrong colors, or a math test that lost points for a rounding error. And the reaction is huge - ridiculously huge. Tears, ripping up their schoolwork, calling themselves ‘stupid,’ wanting to stay home forever. You know that this isn’t just about the homework. This is about a child who’s tied their self-worth to their performance at school.
The scripts in this guide are about the child who falls apart emotionally over a small mistake.
The companion podcast episode explains what’s actually happening inside your child when they fall apart like that, and what the scripts are quietly doing to help. Because once you understand what’s going on underneath, you can write your own scripts for whatever moment shows up tomorrow.
The Child Who Falls Apart Over A Mistake
In this episode, I talk about:
1. What perfectionism is actually doing inside your child,
2. The lie it tells them about their worth,
3. The specifically Muslim version of the praise trap
4. Why this matters for our children's deen as well as their psychology, and
5. The simple language shift that changes everything.
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